In the last episode, I shared a story of a boy named David who spent months grieving after he was denied the opportunity of going for the post utme of the school of his choice and was almost at the point of getting to the peak of depression. If you missed out on it kindly click on the link below 👇
This is the continuation of the series below 👇.
Grief is so real in our lives that our difference makes us demonstrate it differently. This afternoon I was at a commercial bank in Nigeria well I know what you are thinking which is to withdraw or deposit money which is neither of the two but that doesn't mean that I do not want to receive a credit alert from you, well, that is on a light note.
When you know what is rightfully yours but cannot get it or have it at that particular point in time, you begin to show your grievance just as a customer who walked into a bank while I was there and wanted to withdraw a certain amount of money but the bank didn't have up to the amount he wanted due to shortage of cash in circulation since the high and mighty have decided to hoard it.
The customer began to shout at the top of his voice to the lady at the counter using all sorts of foul language and she kept her cool and kept apologizing and pleading with the customer but your guess is as good as mine which is the customer refused and insist on that specific amount that he wanted. I was impressed by the lady at the counter on how she kept her emotions in check because of some of the statements and utterances that the customer made. The country Nigeria is tensed up with the citizens tired of the state of things in the country and one of how the people are demonstrating their grief is through aggression.
Back to my story, the manager in charge of operations or so had to step out to handle the situation. In the bid to do that the operations manager got his share of the heat, I mean abusive language such that all the explanations he tried to make didn't sink in. Worst and greater terrible words were said to the operation manager to the point that he kept quiet and refused to say or explain anything to the man. As a psychologist, what I decoded was the transfer of aggression by the said customer who must have been offended before getting into the bank and was not able to express himself back there getting to the bank and seeing a good opportunity to do that led to all those actions by him.
The branch manager I think had to step in to take the aggrieved customer to his office and calm him down. Not as if his method worked on the customer but the customer was already tired from a psychological point of view as no matter how much anger you demonstrate you will always get tired at a point which was what happened to the man. The issue was resolved at the end of the day with the customer getting the amount mentioned by the lady at the counter.
Lessons from the event.
👉 Do not get angry or retaliate when an individual is demonstrating his or her grief
👉 Frustration aggression theory is a clear indication of grief in action.
👉 When someone around you is demonstrating his or her grief, be wise with your choice of words and use soothing words to calm the person irrespective of the words and statements being used at you at that time.
👉 Grief makes an individual demand for the impossible at that time so be wise enough not to make any promises that you won't be able to keep.
👉 Life in itself is not fair and at certain times things are thrown at us to make us understand that there is no smooth ride in life and you will have to experience grief whether directly or indirectly.
To be continued in the next episode. Stay tuned to this place.
Thank you, geopolitical zone members.
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